Yes,not every cheater deserves to be dumped. Let me ask you a question. It’s going to seem really obvious and easy to answer on the surface, but once you give it some thought, it might not seem so easy.
Is kissing cheating? Easy, right? Sure it is. But… Would you end a romance with the love of your life because they kissed another person? What if they did more? Making out, hooking up, or even sex? That’s the tough part. The person you love, that you were going to probably marry. What sort of cheating would be enough to make you want to throw it all away? A viral video from Mexico has a lot of people talking about kissing, specifically what constitutes severe enough cheating to end a relationship. Because where is that line? And who gets to draw it? In this video, we’re not talking about a peck on the cheek.
That’s probably pretty easy to forgive. We’re talking about full-on making out. (Admittedly, drunken making out, if that makes a difference to you.) Does that change it for you? Does it fit the definition of cheating? The story from Mexico is about a bachelorette party gone wrong. A bride-to-be and friends went out for one last wild night at a resort bar called the Lady Coralina. The bride got very drunk and made out with a stranger by the pool bar. It’s not exactly an uncommon story… Unfortunately for her, someone at the crowded bar filmed the make-out session and shared it on social media where it quickly went viral with the hashtag #LadyCoralina.
2. Was the cheating pre-meditated?
Did the woman at the resort venture out hoping to find someone to hook up with? It’s doubtful, particularly since she’s literally dressed as a bride at the party. You need to consider was this something my partner has been thinking about for a long time? Or was it a crazy spontaneous act? Because it matters. If they’ve been planning this, it means they’ve been aware of a disconnect between you for a while.
3. Was this the start of a long-term affair?
Given that they’re at a resort and the guy is wearing a day-glo baseball hat and no shirt, I’m going to go out on a limb and say no. You need to think about whether or not your partner was acting out or if they were actively trying to move on to someone else. Because a tantrum might be able to be excused, but the same can’t be said for a deliberate exit strategy.
4. Did alcohol play a role?
It would definitely appear so, in the case of this bachelorette. The video makes it look like college kids on Spring Break all holding their giant plastic cups of booze, so it’s safe to say that the people kissing were probably drunk. You do need to consider the mental/physical state of your partner at the time of the kiss.
5. Does being drunk excuse the cheating?
NO. Absolutely not. Not for the bride and not for your partner. But you need to ask yourself “Would this have happened if the person wasn’t completely inebriated?”
6. Do I want to use my partner’s cheating as a way to get “out”?
This may be the most important question of all. If the groom saw the viral video of his fiancée kissing someone else and he felt angry, betrayed, and hurt, that’s normal. But if those feelings were accompanied by a sense of “well, now I can kick her to the curb,” that speaks to larger issues in the relationship. If you see a kiss like that and you can’t even imagine trying to fight through the hard emotions to get to a place of forgiveness someday, that says a lot. The same goes for the bride (who, apparently, was the one who ended the engagement). If she saw that video make the rounds and knew that her fiancée saw it, and her reaction was “the easier thing to do is leave” — that probably suggests that her minor infidelity did hold a deeper meaning.
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